We all have wounds

Life is bound to leave us with bumps and bruises. And for the most part, bumps and bruises offer us an opportunity to grow and strengthen. But when the wounds never heal, they continuously remind us of a time of pain… we call that trauma.

It may not be a surprise to you that trauma is experienced in ugly and unfortunate ways: Physical assaults, Sexual abuse, Environmental accidents. But trauma can also be a way of life. For some of us, trauma isn’t always about what happened to us, or who hurt us, but often how we grew up.

Many of my clients experienced trauma not even knowing it

A father or mother manipulated you as a child, forcing tasks onto you that were inappropriate. A school teacher criticized you in class in front of others. Coaches or instructors took advantage of your abilities, robbing you of feeling as though you had a choice. A neighbor forced you into acts you believed you were supposed to do. A spiritual teacher or mentor used your vulnerabilities to his or her own gain. Trauma can start with trust and end in torture.

“Yeah, that happened to me, but I’m not traumatized.”

A traumatic experience is not always about the painful memories that interfere with your everyday life. It is an experience where a daily confidence, security, enjoyment, or an overall experience of tranquility and zen is almost impossible.

And, of course, some of us have memories of horrible offenses that we carry around, unspoken, unacknowledged, and ultimately corroding our spirits. It makes sense to avoid trauma memories – that’s how we survive: avoid what is pain and enhance pleasure.

The irony about trauma therapy is that we can’t avoid any longer. We must honor your experiences and memories to heal from them; to not allow them to rule who we are and what you believe you are or are not capable of.

EMDR is a proven strategy to healing you trauma

A large aspect of my therapeutic approach is using EMDR as a way to heal from those torturous memories. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a remarkable strategy to access those thoughts. More often than not, EMDR has helped many of my clients access components of their trauma history that they didn’t know affected other aspect of their lives.

Trauma has a nature to diffuse itself into other domains of your life: Control, perfectionism, self-sacrifice, insecurity, cockiness, arrogance, neglect, over-protectiveness. So many functions of who you are is more often than not determined by your history. EMDR seems to unearth these connections and allow you to unhook from negative believes and distressing feelings.

Don’t let your trauma haunt you any more. Call today (978) 606-7039 or fill out a form below to start YOUR life.